Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
Ever Feel Like You’re Just Drifting?
You wake up, go through the motions, check off the to-dos, and repeat. But deep down, a nagging thought lingers: Is this really it?
You’re not alone. Everyone, at some point, hits a phase where life feels directionless—like walking through fog with no clear destination. The good news? You don’t have to stay lost.
Here’s how to find your way again.
1. Stop Searching for “The One” Right Path:
Most people stay stuck because they believe there’s a single, perfect path waiting for them. They expect a grand “aha!” moment that magically reveals their destiny. Spoiler alert: That’s not how life works.
Life is a Series of Small Pivots
Take Steve Jobs, for example. Before co-founding Apple, he dabbled in calligraphy. Seemingly random, right? Yet, that interest later shaped the design of Mac computers. Your journey, like his, won’t be linear—it will be a series of experiments and adjustments.
What to do instead? Stop looking for one answer. Instead, make small changes, test different things, and keep moving forward.
2. Reconnect with What Energizes You:
Forget the pressure to “find your passion.” Instead, focus on your energy. What excites you? What makes time disappear?
Try This: The Energy Audit
For one week, write down everything you do—work, hobbies, conversations, even small tasks.
Rate each activity on a scale of -10 (draining) to +10 (energizing).
Look for patterns—what consistently brings you joy?
Example: A friend of mine thought she was burned out. But after doing this exercise, she realized she wasn’t tired of work—she was just doing the wrong kind of work. She shifted to creative projects, and her energy soared.
🔹 The takeaway? The things that energize you are clues. Follow them.
3. Get Out of Your Head and Take Action:
If you’re stuck, chances are, you’re overthinking. You won’t “think” your way into clarity—you have to act.
Try This: The 30-Day Experiment
Pick one thing you’re curious about.
Find a small way to test it (take a class, shadow someone, volunteer, start a side project).
No commitment—just gather data.
Example: A guy I know thought he wanted to be a chef. Instead of quitting his job and enrolling in culinary school, he worked weekends in a restaurant. Turns out, he hated it. No harm done—he pivoted without a massive life overhaul.
🔹 Why this works? Clarity comes from doing, not just thinking.
4. Define Success on Your Own Terms:
A big reason people feel lost? They’re chasing a version of success that isn’t theirs.
Society’s Checklist vs. Your Truth
✔ High-paying job✔ Fancy title✔ Marriage, house, kids
But what if that’s not what you want?
Ask yourself:
If no one were watching, what would I pursue?
What kind of daily life do I actually enjoy?
Am I chasing this goal because I want it or because I think I should?
Example: A former corporate exec quit his high-paying job to run a small surf school in Bali. His old colleagues thought he was crazy—until they saw how genuinely happy he was.
🔹 The takeaway? Success isn’t about impressing others. It’s about creating a life that actually feels good to you.
5. Accept That You’ll Never Feel 100% Ready:
No one ever feels fully ready to make a big change. Waiting for complete certainty is just an excuse to stay in your comfort zone.
Use the 70% Rule
If you’re at least 70% sure about a decision, go for it. The last 30%? You’ll figure it out along the way.
Example: Jeff Bezos left his high-paying Wall Street job to start Amazon. Was he 100% sure it would work? Nope. But he was sure enough to take the risk—and that was enough.
🔹 Bottom line? If something excites you, explore it. The worst-case scenario? You learn something valuable and pivot.
Lost? Take the First Step Today
You don’t need a five-year plan. You don’t need all the answers. You just need a small step forward.
Try this:✅ Do the Energy Audit this week.✅ Pick one curiosity and run a 30-day experiment.✅ Define what success actually means to you.
And if you need a structured way to figure it all out, check out My Life Quest—a guided step-by-step program designed to help you find direction and make confident decisions.
🔹 Your path isn’t lost—it’s just waiting to be explored.
Thanks for reading,
Vasantham.kamaraj@gmail.com
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